Autism is not an excuse to be awful

Some autistic men can be awful. Now don't get me wrong, some are great, I am friends with many great autistic guys - but I have also met a fair handful of them who are truly awful people. Very narcissistic and filled with toxic misogyny.,,and total lack of insight or capability of remorse after behaving poorly. Those kinds of guys are obnoxious AF... and they think they can get away with it.. even blame their autism. Oh please...

I do also know some pretty terrible autistic with comorbid, unchecked BPD women who blame their BPD rages, lash outs and nasty mouths on autism. Sorry, but autism is never an excuse to be a complete a-hole... and using it as an excuse for that only perpetuates a bad rep, and internal violence within that community (which is rapidly causing trauma) we don't want that... so stop using it as such and maybe realize that you're just being a shitty person, or a person behaving badly who needs to correct their behavior, no matter what 'condition' you may have. Mental health and disability are not excuses for meanness. But alas..

Unfortunately, some of us do indeed lack empathy (and some of us have an excess of it, all depends!) Combined with theory of mind issues, this is very bad.

I just had to vent about that.

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